Why Sticker Charts Stop Working
When we want our kids helping more around the house, it's tempting to reach for a sticker chart. Charts and rewards do work, but only while the stickers keep coming, and the helping tends to fade once the rewards do. What we really want is for our kids to pitch in because it feels good […]
Why So Many Clinicians Miss Autism In Girls
Why do so many ADHD and autistic girls hold it together all day, then fall apart the second they walk in the door? That's masking. They copy the social rules at school, then unravel at home, where it feels safe. So when the report card says your child is an angel at school – but […]
Why Kids Don’t Think Ahead
Why does shaming a kid for forgetting their jacket never teach them to remember it? Because the part of the brain that plans ahead isn't fully online until the mid-twenties 🧠 A child who's cold isn't ignoring you. They genuinely couldn't picture their 'future self' needing that jacket. Tune in to learn:– Why forward planning […]
Managing Meltdowns: It’s Not About The Toy
Question:“How do we handle the kids wanting to buy something in every single shop and then being cranky when we say no to some things?” Answer:Take a photo of the child holding the item and tell them it is going in the album on your phone called WISH LIST. Make albums for each kid if […]
The Text Message That Builds Connection With Teens
So many of us grew up wishing our parents would just admit when they got it wrong. I wrote a text message for clients in my private practice from that ache, addressing the things that kids long to hear from us. Parents have sent it to teenagers and to grown kids in their thirties and […]
Why School Consequences Backfire With Neurospicy Kids
When a spicy kid talks back, shuts down, or explodes over something small, the school's first move is usually more consequences, more check-ins, more adults in the room. And most of the time, that's exactly the wrong thing to do. This episode breaks down why a spicy kid's nervous system reads all of that as […]
Teach Kids Emotional Regulation by Modeling It Yourself
As parents, we spend so much time protecting our children physically. We teach them to cross the street safely, not play with fire, and avoid other tangible dangers. But what about their emotional safety and wellbeing?
Why Shaming Kids Doesn’t Work Long-Term
Most of us come from a generation where shaming was practiced extensively by our own parents.
Why? It’s effective.
Anger Management For Parents
How control and strict parenting erodes influence over our children